I have the best intentions to post every week, or at least every two weeks, but last week snuck by really fast. Sorry for the hodge-podge of updates! Both Vivian and Ben had a cold, and much grumpiness ensued.
Vivian has still had no visible spasms or seizures. With just over a week to go until her birthday, I’m actually terrified at the thought of beginning the wean off of her anticonvulsant medication. I am so afraid that she will start having seizures again, and then on top of that, if we start her medication again, what happens if it doesn’t work this time? What happens if her epilepsy triggers the infantile spasms to come back? I feel like we’re damned either way.
Either we continue to give her this heavy-duty medication while her brain is trying to develop, or we run the risk of seizures. And then if we don’t give her the meds and she has more seizures they will disrupt her development as well. I know only time will tell how long she will be able to go medicine-free and seizure-free. I hope it is a long time. I try not to dwell on the what ifs much.
Still teething: Vivian’s first tooth came through shortly after my last blog post. It’s a top right tooth, but not one of her two front teeth. The left one is still working its way down. Vivian still has quite a strong tongue thrust reflex so you really can’t see her gums ever. She also has a pretty big upper lip tie, so it’s really hard to get a good look at her upper gums without her getting very upset, so we mostly go by feel! Her top tooth is getting big enough to see it from an angle or two without having to move her lip up, so that’s pretty nifty!
Today we noticed she also now has a bottom front tooth that’s cut through as well; it was a very sneaky tooth indeed! I thought I had felt something sharp a few days ago but didn’t see anything, and then today got a glimpse of white while she was eating and there it was. I have a feeling she’ll be getting a few more teeth in quickly now that the first few have arrived. Here’s to hoping we manage to get some sleep over the next few weeks!
Weight: We have a pediatrician appointment at the hospital tomorrow afternoon. The first in three months. I have no idea what Vivian will weigh, but I hope it’s enough to keep the doctor happy. We stopped recording her precise milk intake the week before last and it feels really weird not to record the volumes in my phone every time she eats. I worry that she’s not getting enough, but she seems to take enough every day, along with at least one meal of solids.
Everyone keeps commenting on how long she is. She’s been average for height at every appointment we’ve had. I think it’s because she doesn’t have much extra chubbiness to her?
Eating: Vivian is still doing well with very smooth purees like yogurt and custard, and our speech language therapist is still really happy with her progress. We also introduced another flavor – pear, carrot, blueberry and quinoa. We call that one “quinoa”, because if you call it carrot, she won’t open her mouth.
The SLT said it’s amazing that Vivian trusts us so much with her food, and that a lot of babies she sees will just shut down after you make them try a flavor they don’t like. Whenever we feed her, we make sure to tell her what she’s eating; she definitely recognizes “yogurt” and “chocolate”, and we make sure to give her yogurt again after she tries something new, so she knows that we won’t force her to eat something that makes her gag.
Communication: The SLT has also recommended we encourage Vivian to use her voice more, so we play games where we’ll sing or do an activity and then stop and wait for her to tell us that she wants more by making a sound. We also play with her toys and if she touches them, we say, “Go!” and use the toy as well, so that she will know she can use her voice to play too. And we are trying to encourage her to say stop by holding up our hand and placing her hand to ours when we finish an activity.
We’re still getting some babbling “la la la” here and there, but not much more than that. It’s crazy to me to hear what neuro-typical (NT) kids her age sound like. And even more crazy to see how fast they are with fine motor skills. I think both Ben and I are in awe of how fast other babies her age are and how much bigger the gap is getting between Vivian and them.
Physiotherapy: Vivian has started reaching for things more with her right hand, which is exciting. We are still working on rolling from front to back and from back to front both ways, as well as sitting. It feels like we’ve been working on these things for ages. I guess we have. Still hoping one day we’ll get there!
Vivian’s wrist brace came last week. It’s a bit long for her arm, so we are only putting it on for a few minutes at a time to get her used to it for now.
We tried Vivian again in her high chair today, but this time we shortened the legs so that she’s only about a foot off of the floor, instead of up at the highest setting. She took it really well and played with a spinning toy that has a suction cup on it, to fasten to the high chair tray. She really likes this toy and will often reach for it with her right hand to spin it, which is awesome.
ACC: We were meant to have a meeting with our ACC case worker on Friday but it got pushed back to this coming Friday. She suggested that we consider some inpatient, intensive therapy in Auckland at the Wilson Centre. I don’t even know how that would work logistically at this point in time, with Vivian not sleeping through the night in her cot yet. Perhaps once we’ve mastered this transition. I never thought they would suggest it for us but maybe it will be good for Vivian. It also frightens me to think about going to another 24-hour care situation, with nurses and doctors. I didn’t realize it scared me until just now. Those memories of being in NICU and wondering when we would get to leave stick with you sometimes.
We also were informed that Vivian is entitled to attendant care hours each week, for the care that she requires which is above and beyond what she would need if she didn’t suffer her brain injury. This means we can get someone in from a healthcare provider to watch Vivian if we need to, who will be equipped to deal with a high needs child, and also that Ben can work as her family carer through the healthcare provider, and be paid to take care of Vivian for these hours and no longer has to work nights on the weekends.
This also means on the weekends we can all finally spend some time together instead of Ben or I having to catch up on sleep in shifts. It feels like a huge weight has been lifted for Ben, but also for me as well. It really didn’t seem worth the money for us to be so stressed over him getting enough sleep for work, or the risk he took working security every week.
Vision: We are now waiting on a report from BLENNZ to find out whether they think Vivian has some degree of CVI. If she does (and I’m pretty sure she does), I think she’ll be invited for a proper assessment and therapy in Auckland at some point for this as well. That’s probably a long ways off, though.
We are also waiting for a follow up appointment with the ophthalmologist in Christchurch Eye Clinic to find out whether Vivian will need surgery to correct her strabismus (Vivian’s eyes not lining up all the time). Another thing I’m trying not to think about! 🙂
In the mean time, we have been looking at finding toys for Vivian that offer a lot of visual stimulation – reflective toys and toys that light up. We also think that she is attracted to yellow and red toys more than other toys (common for babies with CVI), which would explain why Mr. Snail is her favorite toy and she’s taken a liking to a yellow plush toy by giving it kisses and drooling all over it (she doesn’t do this with any other toys).
Hearing: Vivian has some sparkly new hearing aid molds, and her ears continue to be nice and clear every time we go to her hearing appointments. She is getting harder and harder to distract during these appointments though. They suggested we bring in her favorite toys, since she really doesn’t take to new toys like NT kids would, probably due to her vision impairment. She likes familiar things.
We aren’t due back for another month, so Mr. Snail will come with us to the next appointment. Writing about this now has made me think that her reaction-based hearing test has fallen through the cracks, as we haven’t had to do the puppet thing again since the first time. Will call them and query this tomorrow, as I know the specialist wanted her back at least once a month to do the puppet thing, so Vivian would remember it instead of waiting two or three months before doing it again and her having to relearn.
Phew! I think that’s everything! Hopefully my next post will have some good birthday pictures. We decided to invite some folks over to celebrate and we’re not sure how it will go with our house being so small. We wanted to make sure we could calm Vivian down if she gets worked up, so home was the best place to be able to do that.
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