Well! I picked a really bad year to start a blog about gardening (amongst other things). This summer has been really crappy weather-wise, at least for tomatoes, which was supposed to be my bumper crop this year!
It’s (again) been a while since I posted. And I don’t feel horribly bad about that (sorry!). I’ve fallen behind on reading all the awesome blogs I follow, but I’m slowly catching up! I blame the annual leave I took in January. Blogging has been an outlet for me, and when I took time off, I didn’t need to say as much because I guess I had more time to do other things? Plus, the weather has still been really…not summery, so my garden (sadly) is not as awesome as I thought it would be, hence the lack of garden updates.
I’m on annual leave again! And I’m getting married next Saturday. Surprise surprise!I do love the idea of being engaged, but Ben and I have been together 7+ years. I really don’t see the point in a long engagement, or a big wedding, so I looked at the calendar and picked a day that I would like to celebrate for the rest of my life. The 3rd of the 3rd sounded awesome, and it’ll definitely be easy for Ben to remember (jokes, I swear). Plus, it’s half way between my birthday and Ben’s birthday, and if you include valentine’s day being a week and a half before my birthday, I’ve successfully wrangled us a month of celebrating! I’m pretty satisfied about that! :) Not that we really do Valentine’s Day, in a commercial sense.
I’ve also turned 30 since the last time I posted. Being 30 doesn’t feel much different from 29, but that combined with getting married soon has made me miss my family a lot. Especially my mom. I always thought she’d be here for this, but life doesn’t always work out the way you thought it would.
I know some folks might be wondering about our wedding plans — there really aren’t many. We’re having a private ceremony at home with a celebrant and Ben’s parents as our witnesses. Afterwards, I think Ben and I will just enjoy our wedding day together. No reception. We don’t really know heaps of people and Ben’s a fairly private person, so I think it would be awkward to have a lot of people over when we really just want to be married, for us. I’m hoping our friends will understand that and not be offended that they’re not getting invited to a reception. We’re not even doing a wedding cake (neither of us are crazy about cake). We thought about having a barbecue, but I’m not really sure we’ll even do that.Having spent the last few weeks looking at wedding stuff, it really amazes me. The money there spent in the wedding market is unbelievable. I can’t imagine spending thousands of dollars on a wedding. Many of the Western wedding traditions as we know them didn’t really exist until the last century, honestly, not a lot of it appeals to me. Don’t get me wrong — I’ve been to a few weddings and they’ve been really beautiful. They’re just not for me.
I wasn’t keen on the idea of wearing a dress, as I’m not really a dress (or skirt) kind of person, but I know Ben really would love to see me in a dress, so I managed to find one on my birthday. It wasn’t an easy feat considering most of the stores out there don’t even carry my size (NZ 18). It’s not a traditional wedding dress because it’s royal blue, but it fits me well, and I feel beautiful when I wear it.
I want to find some cheap live flowers (white and purple maybe?) to plant in my tire planters (which have remained bare after I pulled out the nemophilias), but that’s about all the decorating I’m doing. We’re still saving for a car. The highlight of my birthday (after finding my dress) was buying a beautiful kaftan top for $5 when it was originally $60. I don’t want to blow money on dead flowers, however pretty they are. At least with live flowers we can enjoy them for a few weeks after the wedding!
Call me crazy if you want (a few people I know seem were flabbergasted by me not really wanting to get a dress), but I’m really happy about it all. That’s what matters, right?
Have you ever gone the non-traditional route with something important?